I remember the day clearly. My 3year old daughter jumping on top of my back, while I was studying for an upcoming exam. My husband decides to take her for a walk to my sister in laws house, not too far from where we lived.
The phone call that followed 20mins later, had my heart pumping louder than ever ….
Sound of the cell phone rings – My phone is on its last two bars – My husband out of breath able to let out only a few words – come now – dog – attack – I jump up – grab my car keys – and speed around the corner.
ON THE SCENE OF THE ATTACK
My husband barely able to move and covered with blood stains is carried by a couple of men to the car.
Me – staring at the road – MY DAUGHTER NOWHERE IN SIGHT – I panic and freak out swearing at everyone in the road (which is not something I do on any day)- asking WHO THE HELL AND WHO THE F’s DOG IS IT – WHERE’S MY DAUGHTER !!!!
Someone points to the neighbors house, indicating that my daughter was inside…..
I approach the house, unaware of what I’m about to find. There before me, sat my daughter – blood dripping from the side of her face – a towel on her lap. She looks up, our eyes connect – and I know that everything is going to be alright – I activate MOM Mode and get her into the car, to Red Cross Hospital.
……LISTEN TO THE RADIO INTERVIEW WITH Tracey Lange on Heart 104.9, where I relive the story and discuss the benefits of Trauma Counseling
BELOW IS THE ARTICLE IN THE ARGUS ON PAGE 3 OF THE NEWSPAPER ON 4 APRIL 2010. IT IS IMPORTANT TO NOTE THAT THANAA WAS ONE OF A VERY FEW KIDS WHO SURVIVED A ROTTWEILER ATTACK. WE THANK THE ALMIGHTY EVERYDAY FOR SAVING HER LIFE AND GRANTING US THE OPPORTUNITY TO LOVE HER AND WATCH HER GROW.
As a family we decided it was best to attend counseling so that we receive the best advice on treating Thanaa.
Trauma counseling is a specialist field of counseling which helps people address, come to terms with, and recover from a traumatic event. Trauma counselors are typically involved if someone is struggling physically, emotionally or psychologically after such an event.
You will learn to stop living in that moment, or time in your life. Most people who have experienced a severe trauma have a hard time separating themselves from that point in their life, which is only a natural response. Therapy can give you the tools you need to stop being a victim day in and day out and to learn how to take control of your thoughts when it comes to the things that you have experienced. Essentially, it is about realizing that you are not what happened to you, but are instead whoever you chose to be each day of your life.
It will help you live a more fulfilled life. Being that you have experienced trauma in your life, it’s possible that you have trust issues, even with those that you are closest with. In my daughters case she didn’t trust the security of open areas, whether it was in an open space like the mall or where anything was able to get through like a window even if it had burglar bars on, any movement terrified her. Having those issues can make having secure and healthy personal relationships extremely difficult. Worrying that someone or something is going to hurt you in any way takes away from living a fulfilled and happy life. Working past this will lead to you seeing others in a completely different and more positive light.
It can also give you a strong support system of people that understand what you are feeling and help you to work through those moments so that they no longer impact you for days or weeks. Through our counselor we learned how best to interact and love our daughter. As it would be natural to smother her because you want to express so much love for her and just hold on to her because what goes through your mind is nearly losing a child. I realized smothering is not going to help her in the long run either, she will still need to manage her emotional state and learn independence. Counselors will provide you with strategies for managing distress; That way if you experience something that is leaving you with feelings of extreme anxiety, fear or other emotions, you can Implement those tools to help you to manage those feelings and get on with your life.
One of the most common forms of this type of therapy is Cognitive Behavoural Therapy. Your counselor will ask you questions and ask you to talk about the event or things that trigger emotions in you so that you can eventually get to a point where that event or trigger no longer has control over you. This, of course, can be extremely difficult. It is common to not want to talk about these things as they are likely to lead to an emotional response, but that is the point of doing so. The more that you talk through it the quicker it is that you will realize that what happened was not your fault and is not what daily life is usually like. That whoever/whatever hurt you was the one at fault. In my daughters case it was in drawings and colours and farm animals. Her first visit visit saw her fencing the dog in and placing a dinosaur, which she saw as a more ferocious animal on the outside of the fence, as a form of protection. At her last visit we saw a remarkable difference the dog was no longer fenced in. Instead the dog was placed to roam around on the farm. At this point she realised that not all dogs are the same.
These are just a few benefits. I urge anyone who has gone through any type of physical, mental or emotional trauma to please seek help. Listen to the radio insert, Kaylie gives information on free centres and counselors who are willing to help. I PROMISE IT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOR THE BETTER. Much Love and Strength to you all XOXO
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