SETTING GOALS NOT RESOLUTIONS

Looking back on goals I set for 2018, I did pretty well in achieving them, but it wasn’t so much setting goals than the steps taken to achieve them.

Here’s how that rolled out:

  • Create a Modest Fashion Retail space.  Brought an International Fashion Brand to South Africa and set them up for retail at the Artem Gallery. Brought the Council of Modest Fashion to South Africa. Together with the COMFAfrica team hosted a Modest Fashion Conference and Exhibition, and soon after, set up the Africa Modest Fashion Collective PopUp store at Kenilworth Centre.
  • Set out to study a Honours Degree in either Organisational Psychology or Film and Media. Received a Silver Award for Outstanding Costume, Makeup and Styling for Post Graduate Film. Completed my degree, and will be graduating in March 2019
  • Get remunerated for work. While money was made, it also went back into work and projects. Due to studying, work was on hold for most of the year, so made zero rands for the year.  Cash seemed to disappear as the year came to a close.  I ended up counting the cents in my wallet (of which there were few).
  • Spend time with friends and family. At the beginning of the year I attempted to reach out to friends and family, everyone seemed busy and pre-occupied.   My studies and community projects took its toll on me, and I ended up with very little quality time with family and friends.
  • Collaborations. I’ve collaborated with many people and business with prosperous relationships and business endeavors built in the fashion business, media business, and community work. Not all collaborations worked out the way I had wished. Some left me with debt, others with a bad reputation. I’m hopeful that the sincerity of my intentions will reap the right relationships and rewards for 2019.

LESSONS LEARNED

  • I’m happy with what I accomplished for 2018. Would I do it the same way. Definitely not.  It was not a bed of roses, but life is not perfect, so it’s just as important to roll with the punches, and face the challenges head on.  It’s the way we accomplish greater things in the future.
  • Setting goals, helps you envision where you want to see yourself by the end of the year.
  • While having goals are good. Setting them requires effort, and sometimes people to motivate and support you.
  • MOST IMPORTANT LESSON LEARNT was not to take on too many goals, but also to plan for time-outs, and taking a breath o

Here are a few ways to accomplish your new year resolutions by setting goals.


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While the effort to adopt resolution shows a wonderful sense of positive intent, a better alternative is to develop new goals for the future. And it helps to work toward them as a more of a gradual process rather than expecting to change immediately. Goals are a better plan than resolutions for a few key reasons.

Rigid vs. Fluid

Resolutions stay the same: “I will go to bed early.” “I will stop eating certain junk.” “I will go to the gym regularly even though I don’t go at all right now.” If these are somewhat big changes, it may feel like a huge change with no buildup. Goals, however, can be tackled in steps, beginning with baby steps and increasing in difficulty as you become more accustomed to the change. This makes goals more realistic for lasting change.

 

Sense of Accomplishment vs. Sense of Failure

Goals give you a direction to aspire to, but with the baby steps you may be taking toward your goal, you can still feel like you’ve accomplished something and are on the right track, which will, in turn, keep you moving in the right direction. Once you’ve broken a rigid resolution, however, it’s easier to feel like a failure and give up.


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Resolutions Vs. Setting Goals

The difference, then, between a resolution and a goal can be seen in the following classic New Year’s example:

  1. New Year’s Resolution: “I’m going to lose weight in the new year.”
  2. New Year’s Goal: “I will lose 15 kilograms by Autumn, and I will do so by working out three days a week while also reducing my food intake to 1,200 calories per day.”

The goal is different than the resolution because it is specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time-limited (S.M.A.R.T.). Statistically speaking, you’re far more likely to lose 15 kilograms with the goal than you are to lose any weight with the resolution. You can still call them New Year’s resolutions, but if you want resolutions with staying power, you’re going to have to set them as S.M.A.R.T. goals.

Characteristics of a S.M.A.R.T. Goal

Essentially, a good goal is one that firmly spells out who is responsible for a desired outcome, and how they are responsible for meeting that outcome. As you set goals for your New Year, you’re naming yourself as the party that is responsible for the end result, and you’re clearly indicating what success must look like.

A firm goal has the following S.M.A.R.T. characteristics:

  • Specific. A good goal is a specific goal. It indicates the who, what, when, where, and why of your lofty vision for the future. It tells you not only what you eventually hope to accomplish, but also the steps you must take to get there.
  • Measurable. Effective goals also specify what success looks like, and they do so by including measurement. In the example above, the goal-writer indicates that success means losing 15 kilograms. This specificity is much more effective than the hope for a vaguely worded outcome.
  • Attainable. You can set ambitious goals, but make sure that you break down the goals into attainable steps. You can do this by breaking your goals into measurements that you can reach within a couple of months. If you need to lose 20kgs but haven’t had success with losing more than 10kgs, then make yourself an attainable goal of losing 5kgs. You can lose additional weight by setting a new goal once you reach your initial “success measurement” of 5kgs. Giving yourself the ability to meet your lofty goals in a piecemeal manner helps you avoid discouragement along the way.
  • Realistic. Goals can’t just be attainable – they must also be realistic. Realistic goals aren’t just those goals that you’re able to attain; rather, they’re the goals that you’re willing to attain. For example, if you’re absolutely fed up with stepping on and off the bathroom scale, but you don’t want to do the work to actually lose weight, then don’t set the goal. It will only lead to discouragement. You can pick up the goal when you’re ready to pursue it and have the ability to do so. Another alternative is to word the goal in a way that you feel excited about. For instance, instead of setting a goal of losing 5kgs, set a goal of going for a walk four times a week. It’s your goal, and you can do whatever you want with it.
  • Timely. Finally, a good goal is one that is time-limited. Rather than simply stating that you want to lose 5kgs, make sure that you put a date on the goal. It can be a special event, such as winter or a wedding, or it can just be a date that is about three months away. You’ll find that giving yourself a time frame will boost your motivation. Just don’t make the time frame too short, because you want to give yourself time to complete the goal while also making the behaviors into a habit.

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Wishing you great success on all the goals you set out to achieve for 2019 !

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